Personally, I know what it's like to be around toxic, negative people. Every one of my friends growing up was like that... And there's a really good chance that most of the people you know are negative, too!
Now I'm sure you know that you should surround yourself with positive people, but here are some solid reasons why! Let these serve as motivation to move away from the people that might be holding you back from... well, happiness and a whole lot more!
Yeah this one is pretty obvious, but it's one of those things where you don't realize how good it is until you actually have it! I spent all of my (3 at the time of writing) adult years cutting out the people who stressed me out, and I couldn't be any happier about it.
I mean these were people that I, honestly, couldn't stand to be around. Every situation I would get into with them, they found a way to exaggerate how bad it was. Or if a situation was good, they found a way to wreck it with their own pessimism. Some friends!
So to be able to let go, be in the moment, and totally enjoy your time with friends? That's an amazing, truly explainable feeling that everyone should experience. Embrace the people you find that, when the time is right, go into a worry-free state.
I've fallen down more times than I can count... figuratively, of course. Well... sometimes I can be clumsy, but I won't admit to it in public! 😛
But seriously, keeping positive people around you is so damn nice when you find yourself getting down emotionally. Whether you're drained from hard days at work, you're having a rough break off with your partner or family member (Now THAT sucks), or you just seem to be falling into some kind of depressed state, you need these people in your life.
It's also great to have people who are happy to back you up at any time. Not aggressively wanting to get in fights, mind you, please don't have them do that haha! But friends that will help you get out of fights in the first place.
It's not hard to see how negative people make for terrible role models... Nobody wants to live that kind of life intentionally. Positive people, on the other hand, can always be a source of inspiration for you and others!
I haven't hit on this point yet, but by suggesting that you surround yourself with positive people, I don't necessarily mean physically. As in, they don't need to directly be in your life, they can simply be individuals you look up to because of their upstanding personality and character.
You should always aim to be growing your social circle with quality relationships with quality people... But if you need a starting point, follow quality people online that are doing the things you want to do. They will provide much the same benefit, they just are generally too busy to actually communicate with you with any kind of regularity... and having that connection with people is important.
And why are all people with that positive mindset inspirational? Because they make the best of everything that life gives them. Positive people also often times have a better ability to be successful, which in of itself is a great trait to be around! Or at least that's been in my own personal experience.
One last thing... there's a thing called the "average of five." The idea was conceived, or at least named, by Jim Rohn. He says that, "You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with." In other words, your mental and physical state can, and often will, reflect that of those around you. This also means you can hack your ability to grow, coming in the next section!
In my experience, almost all of the positive people I've ever been around have great passions. It could be speaking multiple languages, drawing, or just their knowledge on some topic. But this is something I've been able to use to hack my own personal development.
I mean it's pretty straightforward, you can watch how these people do what they do and study it. Makes it a lot easier to learn when you are surrounded by positive individuals who know and love what they're doing!
But especially because they love it, I believe it brings a sort of magic to it that allows others to copy them more easily. For instance, my one good friend was, for a while, phenomenal with his leg strength and totally absorbed in it! I was able to turn around and really enhance my leg workouts with new exercises, ideas, and methods.
Within a very similar thread as teaching, these same positive individuals you gather can help give guidance on what you're already doing. Having someone to help keep you on track, to push you with the right amount of force, and to know when you're being reckless.
I guess another term for mentors could be coaches, since they perform just about the same tasks. All positive people have mentorship potential, I think. It's that mindset of believing anything is possible with the right skill set that equips them for the job.
Positive older people are my favorite for this, just because of all of their experience and wisdom. Sure, they don't always know how newer technology and business models work, but they have been through all of the business trends. They have seen what has worked and failed throughout their lifetime... that's worth millions to get their guidance from time to time.
Even just close, positive friends work, too! Just having people that believe in and push you from time to time through the hard times.
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I hope you enjoyed this short post! I love finding new positive people and letting them in my life because of how much value they give me. My other hope is that you, too, will begin to search for and bring more positive people into your personal social network.
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